Top Expert Strategies for Supporting a Partner with Cancer

By Dr. David Samadi 

Supporting a partner through a cancer diagnosis is a profound challenge that can significantly impact both individuals involved. As the partner providing support, your role is pivotal in ensuring your loved one feels cared for, empowered, and emotionally supported throughout their journey.

Navigating this journey with a partner diagnosed with cancer is challenging. You may feel helpless at times, frustrated on not knowing exactly what to do, or even having feelings of wanting to get away from the situation, not having to deal with it. These feelings are normal and to be expected. But your partner needs you more than ever and once you see the value in that, you can begin to understand and desire to want to be their advocate, their friend, and their supporter for walking the cancer journey together. 

Here is top advice on how to start:

1. Provide Encouragement: Maintaining a positive and supportive attitude can make a world of difference to your partner’s emotional well-being. Encourage open communication, allowing them to express their feelings without fear of judgment or criticism.
2. Act as Their Advocate: Advocate for your partner within the healthcare system, ensuring they receive the best possible care and attention. This may involve asking tough questions, seeking clarification on treatment options, and addressing any concerns or discrepancies in their care plan.
3. Assist with Organization: The logistical demands of cancer treatment can be overwhelming. Assist your partner in managing appointments, medications, and financial responsibilities associated with their care. By shouldering some of these burdens, you can alleviate stress and allow your partner to focus on their recovery.
4. Maintain Normalcy: While cancer undoubtedly disrupts life as you know it, strive to maintain a sense of normalcy in your day-to-day routines. Continue participating in activities you enjoy, spending time with loved ones, and pursuing your own interests and goals. By preserving elements of normalcy, you can provide stability and comfort during a tumultuous time.
5. Find Moments of Levity: Despite the seriousness of the situation, finding moments of humor can be incredibly therapeutic for both you and your partner. Laughter has been shown to reduce stress, boost mood, and strengthen emotional bonds. Embrace lightheartedness when appropriate, and allow yourselves to share in moments of joy amidst the challenges you face.
6. Embrace Spiritual Practices: For many individuals, faith and spirituality can provide a source of solace and strength during difficult times. Engage in prayer, meditation, or other spiritual practices together, drawing on your beliefs to find comfort and guidance.

In supporting your partner through their cancer journey, remember that your presence, compassion, and unwavering support can make a profound difference. By prioritizing their needs, advocating for their well-being, and fostering a sense of connection and positivity, you can help navigate this challenging terrain with grace and resilience.

Dr. David Samadi is the Director of Men’s Health and Urologic Oncology at St. Francis Hospital in Long Island. He’s a renowned and highly successful board certified Urologic Oncologist Expert and Robotic Surgeon in New York City, regarded as one of the leading prostate surgeons in the U.S., with a vast expertise in prostate cancer treatment and Robotic-Assisted Laparoscopic Prostatectomy.  Dr. Samadi is a medical contributor to NewsMax TV and is also the author of The Ultimate MANual, Dr. Samadi’s Guide to Men’s Health and Wellness, available online both on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Visit Dr. Samadi’s websites at robotic oncology and prostate cancer 911.